‘ How to get him back’ vs. ‘ How to get over a break up’
Love is all over the place. Sometimes it seems that the only problem in this world is love. Every 3rd T.V channel will have something on, that discusses romance. Right around the corner is the next love series like the O.C. Even the history channel will talk about some queens medieval affair. Same goes for published media. Many book covers are sporting pictures of roses, sunrises and sunsets promising the reader a roller coaster of romantic emotions or even advice on how to get over an ex. In celebrity magazines we see the same thing. Almost all of those people became famous after taking part in a romantic film.
We are clearly obsessed by the subject and everything that’s related to it.
Even though it sounds bad, I think it’s a good thing. Especially in countries like Canada and Russia. Because their number of citizens is slowly going down. In many of those countries people think more about their work and how they will succeed in life. While in reality success is often a matter of having a good family. Media praises money and riches and pays less attention to love. Don’t get me wrong, ‘romantic’ shows still get a lot of air time there too. Too bad that many of these shows display romance in a negative light. Breakups and unfaithful lovers are put on the spot light, while a simple happy family is considered boring and stays in the background. We see the same trend in printed media. There are now more and more books that explain how to get over a bad breakup. Why is it so hard to find a book that will explain how to fix a relationship and help you get your lover back? Books that make you fight for your love and not give up should be more prevalent. When was the last time you saw a best seller like that?
In certain parts of the country 1 out of 3 couples divorces after a mere 2 years of marriage. When will it end? Those are mind blowing statistics! Did people stop trying to fix their problems and simply abandon ship? May be they should stick around and work out the differences instead. If the wife is cheating it does not mean the husband needs to breakup right away. What caused this infidelity? Could it have been avoided if the husband was more attentive? Could it be a minor change in the way the couple communicated? I think the 80 / 20 rule applies here too, where as 80 percent of the difference is caused by 20 percent of change. They say that number one reason that makes wives leave is the lack of appreciation.
So let’s appreciate each other more. Let’s look beyond things that differentiate us and concentrate on things that unite us. Let’s be understanding and patient towards one another. We can choose the feelings of fondness instead of anger. For we shall pass here but once.
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- Robert Sinclair